Pleasurists # 35

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temptation

by Matt Miller

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #34? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #36? Submit it here before Sunday July 5th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

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Editor’s Pick

  • Sublime by Carrie Ann

    • Insertion with this toy is wonderful. Thrusting is amazing. It’s girthy yet not huge, filling but not uncomfortable and the bumps and bulges really stimulate the inner labia and vaginal entrance.

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Review: Sugar High Glitter City DVD

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on July 1, 2009
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A short while after I came out to myself as bisexual, I started frequenting the Planet Out website. I had a personal ad up that yielded pretty much nothing. (The worst being a three way date where I had the woman I was hot for tell me she was hot for the other woman. *sigh* And thus I remained a girl on girl virgin until I met my first girlfriend while on vacation in late 2001.) I’d look through the lists of gay/lesbian films and rent as many films as I could. But of course I couldn’t find the porn at my local video store. One of those movies was 2001’s Sugar High Glitter City, directed and produced by Jackie Strano and Shar Rednour. I have wanted to see that dvd since it came out, but I rarely buy porn. When Babeland offered it to review I gleefully took them up on the offer. This is my first DVD review - and I wish I had bought it years ago.

The plot is thus (from Babeland’s website):

In Sugar High Glitter City, sugar is outlawed and dykes will stop at nothing to get it…even selling their own bodies. Real-life, full-force, glam-sleazy dyke sex reigns in this real lesbian video with hot dildo action packed throughout. Shot on location in San Francisco and narrated by Honey Lee Cottrell, this is some of the hottest dildo lesbian sex we’ve seen in quite some time. The lesbian sugar fiends stop at nothing to get some! Nominated for AVN Awards for “Best All Girl Sex Scene” and “Best All Girl Feature”. We at Babeland say it wins “Best Chemistry” because you can’t hide the real dyke heat in this one.

Where do I start? Wow! Porn showing safer sex (latex gloves)! (No dental dams though, but to be fair what a dull porn that would be. You wouldn’t be able to see anything.) A wide variety of ethnicities are represented! A variety of body types! No fake tits! Various states of pubic hair. Butch dykes, femmes, and everything in between. Butches on femmes. Femmes on femmes. Butches on butches! Pierced nipples, piercings all over the place. Lots and lots of strap on cocks. Use of lube on sex toys. Lots of women having REAL orgasms! Squirting! This DVD has something for pretty much everyone who likes watching women get it on with women.

The sugar addiction theme pulls the scenes together without getting too much into trying to be a regular movie. (I hate when porn has long bits of non-sex scenes. I watch porn for sex!) The sex is realistic and hot. Unlike faux, hetero “lesbian porn” these women have short fingernails. It drives me nuts when woman on woman porn shows the women fingering each other with long fingernails. Ouch! I want to feel a firm finger against my g-spot and not a pointy nail. Real lesbian sex is so much hotter to watch (as a woman) than “lesbian” porn made to satisfy heterosexual men.

Sugar High Glitter City is approximately 70 minutes.

Ageism and Sexuality

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on July 1, 2009
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Over the past couple of years, I’ve been forced to confront my own ageism. You can’t date (and swing with) someone 18 years your senior without getting a good long look about your ingrained thoughts on aging and sex. We live in a society where older people, particularly older women, are desexualized. A woman past menopause is seen as fairly asexual. And it’s assumed that older men can’t get it up, but they can sometimes be “dirty old men” leering at attractive young women (which is considered kinda gross but expected - at least men get to retain some sex drive!).

What’s up with that? Our sexuality doesn’t automatically turn off at a certain age. I read a letter to Dear Abby a short while ago from a couple in their 80s who are enjoying a robust sex life, and they wanted to know how to keep their kids and grandkids from dropping by unannounced while they’re having sex. I thought this was fantastic. But when I saw a woman, probably in her mid to late 60s at the party we attended last Saturday, I thought (and said to MasterDoc), “Oh my god that woman’s so old!” MD didn’t take kindly to that comment seeing as he’s about 10-15 years away from that woman’s age. I tried to back track, “But, she looks like someone’s grandmother. I don’t expect someone’s grandmother to be at a swing/bdsm party.” He asked me, “Why not?” And I had to pause. Why not indeed?

While this woman’s wrinkled face gave away her age, she was in good shape and fashionably dressed. But even if she wasn’t, why the hell shouldn’t she experience and express her sexuality? Why was I putting her into this category of someone who shouldn’t be at a swing party? (I don’t go around thinking fat people shouldn’t be at swing parties, for instance. Lucky for me, seeing as I’m overweight.) It unfortunately comes down to my unconsciously buying into the societal idea that older people aren’t/shouldn’t be sexual. And there’s an added layer - we perceive older people being sexual as being “disgusting.” Why is that? Jeez, I hope that when I’m older I still have an active sex life. I don’t plan to dry up and wither away at age 60 or something. What is disgusting about an older person receiving pleasure? (We’re taught that only young bodies are attractive and that older bodies are unattractive.) While my brain still puts forth all these ageist ideas, at least now I’m looking at them, and pondering why I think that way and if I really should think that way.

It’s about time we let seniors be sexual. I’m going to work on my own negative reactions and try to overcome the stigma I’ve learned. I don’t expect it to improve over night, but it’s been gradually wearing away over the past couple of years.

Weekend

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I had a mostly quiet weekend, which is strange when you learn that I went to a bdsm/sex party on Saturday night with MasterDoc. Of course, this is not so strange when I mention that I had my period, and spent the night freaked out about my Instead cup leaking. Those things don’t do too well during heavy flow days (for me).

I did get to ride the sybian and ended up being the first person naked, I think. I find this thrilling, stimulating and a bit embarrassing. It’s strange to be naked in front of a room of strangers and acquaintances. It’s naughty and definitely a turn on. I find that I can’t necessarily look at the people around me, but I like knowing they’re there. I like that MasterDoc enjoys us being the center of attention. I used the flat top to the sybian since I’ve had trouble with using the dildo attachment while wearing a cup (the cup ended up pinching me - no fun). This was the first time I rode the sybian without a dildo attachment. But considering much of the sensation comes from the vibration and from my clit grinding against the nubby pad, the dildo wasn’t much of a loss.

MasterDoc teased me mercilessly. He’d ask others in the room if they thought I should be allowed to come, and apparently they said no! So he teased me some more, more than he had ever done before. I was in a frenzied state. He had me begging for orgasm, all the while making sure I begged loud enough for others to hear. I was the wanton, aroused slut begging for sexual release. Eventually he let me come, and I was loud and rocketed into another world. I found myself humping the machine desperately, moaning, clutching at MasterDoc’s legs in front of me. I get a little spastic at the time of orgasm on the sybian. I’m also completely unintelligible.

I had to actually ask him to stop, as I started developing a headache. Asking him to stop is rare, and getting a headache from orgasm is pretty rare for me as well. MasterDoc took care of me, going upstairs with me to get a drink and then he put me on the sofa while he went off in search of some acetaminophen for my headache. I appreciated the fact that he took the time to see to me when I wasn’t feeling well. He’s good to me. (When he’s not being sadistic, that is!)

Later, I got to watch the party hostess ride the sybian. She goes for the largest phallic attachment it comes with. I’m always amazed as that dildo is too large to be comfortable for me. But she loves it and it’s fascinating watching a woman ride the sybian. I saw her humping the machine as she struggled to hold back from coming just as I did. MasterDoc took the controls for a while, then her fiance came over and she sucked his cock while riding. Her fiance took the controls and had her suck his cock as he sat in the chair in front of her. A woman is just in another world when she’s on that thing. It’s beautiful to watch her face contort as she’s taken over by ecstacy.

We got home late that night, and then on Sunday ended up sleeping half the day away. (Got up, had breakfast, went to lay down for cuddles and then both felt drowsy so we fell asleep for a couple of hours.) Sunday night, I wandered into the bedroom where I knew MasterDoc was preparing for some sex. He was on the phone with a new lady he’s been speaking with. He wanted her to listen in as he did things to me. I sucked his cock and he made more happy noises than usual so his new ladyfriend could hear on the other end. A little later, he slapped my inner thighs and pussy for a while - asking his ladyfriend if she liked that. He made me come using his hands and did his best to tempt her with the prospect of coming that hard. She only listened in for a while. I hope she enjoyed it. (She’s read this blog and enjoyed it, happy to say.)

He fucked me from behind, and made me into a moaning mess, desperate for orgasm. He let me come and kept me going with his fingers even after my vaginal muscles had pushed his cock out. I was very happy and quite satisfied.

On Monday I didn’t have to be at work til later (as did he) and we spent some time together in the morning. He had me suck his cock, and I tell you, I really get into it. Sucking his cock made me so horny! We fucked some more, him hitting my ass with the riding crop all the while. It felt good, but then my hips started to get tired (I was on top). I had to ask to stop, and sadly that meant the end of sex as it was getting late. Surprisingly, I didn’t feel anxious over not having reached orgasm. My arousal subsided easily unlike some times when it lingers until I’m able to come. I was just happy to have that intimate time with MasterDoc on a Monday morning, a time I don’t usually get to spend with him.

Review: Lovemoiselle Cecile

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When Vibrator.com asked if I’d like to try out some new sextoys, Lovemoiselle ceramic dildoes/vibrators, I was thrilled. I already like glass toys, and I figured the ceramic should be just like it.  I selected the Lovemoiselle Cecile, as I already have a fair amount of g-spot toys and thought I should try something different. I was attracted to the gentle undulations.

Pretty, ain’t it?

On the positive side, ceramic is easy to clean, durable (just don’t drop it on a hard surface and it should last you a lifetime), pretty, smooth, and conducts heat well (according to the packaging it warms to your body faster than glass). I had high hopes for this. I was so excited to try it out.

First I gave the vibe a try. It takes 2 AAA batteries and it’s easy to open the battery compartment. The button at the end controls the whole thing - cycling through six different vibratory patterns. The button isn’t as sensitive as the ones on Lelo products, and that’s a plus. (If only the Lelo vibes had these less-easy-to-push buttons!) So far so good, right? Alas, like most battery-powered vibes, it was pretty weak. Nice for a tease but not likely to get me off.

Next we tried it inside, I lubed myself up and MasterDoc slid it in. At first it was nice, but as he pushed it in further it became uncomfortable. I realized that the diameter of the vibe gradually gets larger towards the end. And unfortunately for me it was too large to be comfortable - it felt like it was scraping along my pubic bone from time to time. I later compared it to the glass dildo I like so much, and indeed this has more girth.

So unfortunately my high hopes were not met, but I have to say I’m still excited about using ceramic for sex toys - I just want to try a narrower, non-vibrating one next time. Like, say, the Lovemoiselle Aveline. (The Cecile seems to have the largest diameter of them all according to Vibrator.com info.) Ceramic makes for a green sex toy - check out the other green sex toys at Vibrator.com.

Thank you to Vibrator.com for giving me the chance to try my first ceramic sex toys!

“He gave them pain like balm, and they begged him for it”

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on June 24, 2009
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I’m reading a fantasy novel right now, suggested to me a while back by my friend Divasub. It’s called Kushiel’s Dart by Jacqueline Carey. I’ve just come across the bdsm themes in the book, and now understand why she recommended it to me.

“Alone among angels, Kushiel understood that the act of chastisement was an act of love; and the sinner in his charge too came to understand, and loved him for it. He gave them pain like balm, and they begged him for it, finding in it not redemption, but a love that transcended the divine.”

This flowery prose seemed lovely to me when I read it this morning. Last night MasterDoc was wonderfully dominating and it was so what I needed.

At the start of the evening, we went looking for porn online and found a librarian porn video. I can’t find the link to it now, unfortunately. (UPDATE: MasterDoc gave me the link.) It was very amateur - just one camera angle. But the “librarian” (I think her glasses were meant to identify her as a librarian) wore a collar and wrist and ankle cuffs. There was a definite bdsm overtone to the video. And while going down on the guy, she put her hands between his legs to massage his inner thighs - just like I do with MasterDoc! We laughed and wondered if perhaps someone was inspired by our hijinks.

We tried out my new ceramic vibe. Unfortunately it was not as wonderful as I had hoped. I will review it later. I grabbed the acuvibe mini when told to get another toy and I used that to bring myself just about to the edge of orgasm. MasterDoc then had me stop, bend over the liberator scoop, and he fucked me from behind. He’d spank me every so often. It felt great and I wished that he’d let me come like that. He stopped, and started spanking me with my new crop. When that didn’t seem to be as hard as he’d like, he started spanking me with his hands. It went from painful to incredibly hot. I was on the verge of orgasm (he had me play with my clit at the same time) when he started hitting harder. He told me to come, but the pain had just crossed the threshold from stimulating to painful, so it took me a few seconds to be able to come. But I did manage. I’m surprised I didn’t squirt.

We took a break, and then he had me get on top and ride him. My knees were worn out from exercising earlier in the day, but I managed to ride for a while. I got close to orgasm, and he helped me along by asking if I was ready to come, “Right now.” Often, even if I’m not quite to that point his asking me that will put me on the edge. He told me to come, and I came. While I was coming he said, “Come now cunt, and I’ll piss on you when you’re done.” I decided that I had better enjoy my orgasm while I could, and I came really hard. I hoped that he had been just threatening the pissing. And as we cuddled after I thought perhaps that was the case.

I went to get ready for bed, and when I came back from the bathroom, he was holding my collar. “Put this on,” he said, “And come with me.”

He led me back to the door of the bathroom. It was clear that he hadn’t forgotten or threatened idly when he said he was going to piss on me. He told me to get in the tub, on my knees, and if the tub was cold well that was just tough shit. I did as I was told, wincing at the idea of what he was going to do to me. He made me say I was ready, and made me say that I wanted him to piss on me. I clenched my eyes shut as I couldn’t bear to look. He started to piss on me, and with my eyes closed I could sorta block out what it was, and just enjoy the feeling of warm liquid running over me. I could ignore the faint odor of urine and pretend it wasn’t pee. He told me to hold my tits up. I didn’t react fast enough and he ordered me to do it again. I did as I was told and he pissed all over my tits. The piss ran down my body and I was fairly drenched in it by the time he was done. I tell you, he had to have been saving that up all evening. It seemed to go on a long time.

I was feeling humiliated and stunned afterwards. He told me I could rinse off and he was kind enough to get me a towel to dry off after. I carefully rinsed myself off and patted myself dry. I found that I really needed a hug after that. Humiliation play can be pretty intense, and while I like it I definitely need a hug and reassurance of some sort afterwards. I found that while piss play was every bit as humiliating as I would imagine, I didn’t freak out or fall apart from it. Of course, I don’t know that I would have been so composed if he had pissed in my mouth.

While in theory I don’t like piss play, I have been craving some serious domination lately, and this really fit the bill. I wouldn’t let anyone else piss on me. Only he has that power over me.

I slept soundly last night. And a few minutes after waking I remembered, “Oh jeez! He pissed on me last night!”

Review: Acuvibe Mini

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on June 23, 2009
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Babeland sent me the most wonderful toy recently - the Acuvibe Mini.

As you can see, it resembles the Hitachi Magic Wand (and, of course, the full-sized Acuvibe). And indeed, it is very similar. Unlike the Magic Wand, it is cordless - and as it’s rechargeable and not battery powered it’s STRONG. The vibrations, I mean.  It only has one speed, but it’s comparable to the low speed on the Magic  Wand (which is just dandy for me, the high speed is often too much). And being so much smaller (and cordless!) than the Magic Wand it’s so much easier to use on yourself, or a friend. It’s also prettier than the Magic Wand, which looks almost clinical.

It comes with an adapter for charging and in 8 hours it’s fully charged for the first time and ready to go. I used it to masturbate on Thursday. MasterDoc took it out on Friday night to a club and the ladies who tried it liked it a great deal. The next night we used it for a while at the club ourselves and then again at home. Eventually the power ran down and the vibration slowed. Not having been there Friday night I’m not sure how long in total the charge lasted. It probably needs frequent recharging, but it should last a good long sex session just fine.

I LOVE the Acuvibe Mini. Seriously, this is one of the best sex toys I have gotten to review. Thank you Babeland!

Pleasurists #34

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on June 22, 2009
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candles

from dockera.com via art or porn

Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #33? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #35? Submit it here before Sunday June 28th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Note: Monday the 29th is the editor’s birthday, Pleasurists #35 may be delayed next week.

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On to the reviews…

Editor’s Pick

  • Dream Massager G by Sleeping Dreamer

    • I love this vibrator for it’s power. Yes, these vibrations carry throughout the entirety of my vaginal canal and even vibrate down into my ass. I can feel the vibrator through the mattress, yea, that good. The Dream Massage G is to my vagina what the Hitachi is to my clitoris.

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Swinging in the Suburbs

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on June 22, 2009
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Saturday night MasterDoc and I went out to a swing club in the suburbs. He had been there the night before with S., and found it to be a good crowd. But wouldn’t it figure that the night he takes me the crowd turns out to be older? Average age - 60? 65? I was by far the youngest person there with the exception of the couple that ran the place.

Mostly I wasn’t attracted to who was there, although there was one alluring Latina (in her 40s maybe?) in a wrap dress. So I pointed her out to MasterDoc and we smiled at her and her guy. She smiled back and MasterDoc said, “Looks like we’re in.” We went over to talk with them. The lady got up, had me sit down then she sat on the arm of the sofa right by me. I ran my hand along her hip and she said that she likes that, and suggested we go into the other room. As she took my hand and we went into the next room she told the men that we were going to “talk.” Yeah, right. They didn’t believe that for one second.

So she led me into the play room - which is mostly sofas (which suck for playing on) but there’s a bed in a dark corner. She led me right over to that and started to take off her wrap dress. I took off my blouse and started touching her smooth skin. Soon, I was naked but she opted to keep her underwear on. The men came in just a couple of minutes after we went back there. Of course they wanted to watch.

I stroked her body and reached into her bra to find her nipple, which I sucked on. She sucked on mine as well and she did it with the right amount of roughness - not too hard, not too soft. She clearly liked hers sucked hard so I did so. She had me lay back on the bed, and soon the guys were getting closer to be able to see what was going on - or to be able to join what was going on - probably a bit of both. I reached into her panties and played with her clit, making sure to keep it moist with her wetness from below. Her guy reached his hand over and took over. I played with her breasts some more. She declared that she wanted to get fucked.

MasterDoc was keen to oblige but first he had me suck his cock. I got it hard and then the lady wanted to have her turn, so I let her in and as she sucked I stroked his inner thighs, the places that I know make him feel good. Unfortunately, she was rough with him, and MasterDoc has an exremely sensitive penis head. This was not a good thing.

They ended up fooling around and I think he fingered her a bit. The guy (who I wasn’t into - it’s nearly inevitable that if I meet a couple and like the woman, I’m not that into the guy) played with me a bit, and he clearly had the goal of kissing me on the mouth. I wasn’t feeling it but eventually he worked his way there. She and he took turns going down on me, and he slid a finger inside. I wished that he moved his finger a bit as I really like getting fingered. His licking didn’t do much until I spread my lips apart and made my clit more accessible. I gradually reached orgasm, and when I came I came much harder because MasterDoc said, “That’s it. Come cunt,” which sends me further over the edge.

The interlude didn’t last long, and it was early yet so we got dressed and hung out in the lounge area again. There were slim pickings for the most part. There was one woman MasterDoc was interested in, and I wasn’t too keen on either her or hubby, but of course as submissive I was up for anything he wanted. It didn’t come to pass, however.

We spent some time in the play room because it was much quieter in there, and we watched porn while cuddling. He had me suck his cock a bit, and he spanked me a bit. I’m really craving some Domination and pain lately, so the spanking was divine. We fucked in the corner of the sofa a bit later; they had a velvet sofa that lined one wall and extended around the corners to cover part of the side walls. The corner gave us a chance for me to get on my knees and have MasterDoc fuck me from behind. The position was great for me, but difficult for MasterDoc as he had to bend his knees slightly. After that, he fucked me with me laying on the sofa and this position wasn’t so hot for me. Sofas are not good fucking places. Beds, people. If you own a swing club invest in some beds, futons, what have you (and not air mattresses!). A good mat on the floor is also preferable to the narrowness of a sofa.

We didn’t end up playing with anyone else, but when we got home we fucked some more. I also used a new butt plug on him as he brought himself to orgasm. (Oh so many reviews coming down the pike!) I’ve been so focused on not pushing MasterDoc’s cock out when I come lately that I haven’t been coming hard. So even though I loved the sex we had, I still felt unrelieved at the end of the evening. I asked if I could masturbate, and MasterDoc was surprised. I explained why, and he pointed out that he had only ordered me to not push his cock out that one time - I’m not expected to worry about it every single time we fuck. So now I know better for next time. He let me masturbate and he lent a hand to stroking my body and slapping my face. I felt so much better after I came.

Review: Lover’s Riding Crop from Sextoy.com

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on June 19, 2009
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I feel a little inundated with sex toys lately. I have four things on hand to review, and one more on the way. Not that I’m complaining, mind you. I do love me some sex toys. The latest toy I’ve gotten from sextoy.com is a riding crop. Over the past few months I’ve lost a couple of impact toys (one I’m sure will show up eventually, the other I fear was left accidentally at a club) so we’ve been short on things to hit me with. The first ever impact toy I played with and really liked was a riding crop so I was eager to have another.

The Lover’s Riding Crop is a really affordable impact toy - $14.04 at sextoy.com. It can be used gently, tapping on your lover’s behind, or it can be vicious and stingy if you swing it with just a little force. It’s red and black which of course are the most suitable colors for an evil, pain inflicting sex toy. It seems to be made well and looks like it will last a long time. MasterDoc was quite happy to use it on my ass. And tits. And pussy. And I was quite happy to receive it. Depending on how hard you swing it, it can be intense or not so intense. It’s easier to control than, say, a flogger, which makes it a good first impact toy. And it can be oh so very stingy. Make no mistake, this bugger can hurt. I definitely recommend that all bdsm-inclined people have a riding crop.